October 14, 2007
“De tal palo, tal estilla.” (Of such a tree, such a splinter.)
“Díme con quien andas y yo te digo quien eres.” (Tell me who you go around with and I’ll tell you who you are.)
“Él que con lobos anda, aullar aprende.” (He who goes around with wolves learns to howl.)
“Haz bien a alguien y no mires a quien.” (Do good unto someone and don’t look at who it is.)
These sayings come from Henry, a 15-year-old kid, small for his age, dark-skinned, with huge, strong hands and a frank smile. Most of the time between Thursday afternoon and Saturday morning I spent with him. These were our “Immersion Days.” All the trainees caught buses to far-flung parts of the country to live alone with a rural family for two days, talk with them, work with them, see what it’s like out there in the sticks, and learn that our host communities near San Vicente, tiny and muddy and poor as they seem, are the Ritz-Carlton compared to where we may end up living.
The family that took me in lives in the mountains near San Francisco Gotera, Morazán. Their little homestead is 3-4 km above the nearest cantón, surrounded by a cirque of steep, funky mountains dripping with vegetation, cloaked in fog. The four kids, ages 8-15, sleep in hammocks in the dirt floor house. They live with their thick, cheerful mom and tiny, apple-cheeked, stocking-capped grandmother. Their father was murdered seven months ago in a robbery. Henry’s sayings originally came from him.
I slept in a hammock alone in a building several hundred yards away from their house. It is the cheese-making building, with a rich pleasant odor and week-old calves lowing on the porch. Henry asked several times if I was scared, but I wasn’t. I felt totally comfortable from the first with these salt of the earth people and so isolated in their pocket of mountains that I wasn’t worried about intruders. The ground between the two houses was so muddy from the constant rain that I took to riding one of their horses bareback between them, to everyone’s delight, including, it seemed, the horse. I can attest that there is a level of delight on the horse’s part that is excessive, but at least I didn’t fall off, and Henry was kind enough to fetch my hat in his great galoshes.
I woke at 5:15 both mornings, read The Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test for a while, then had a cup of coffee with Henry and a Nicaraguan worker named Juan. Then we milked the cows. Henry strapped a one-legged stool around his hips so all he had to do was make as if to sit and there he was, sitting on a stool. We let the cows in from the pasture one by one, let each one’s calf feed while we hobbled it, then tied the calf by the neck to the cow’s front leg. Then the milking, white jets of milk foaming up the bucketful. Henry showed me five methods of milking, and I got pretty good at one. The teats felt thick and richly biological, like What a design! That this was the first time I’d ever milked cows delighted Henry to no end. He kept saying I had to come back so I could become an expert. His mother kept showing me the huge muscles in her hands, and how her daughter Jessica (Henry’s twin) didn’t have them because she doesn’t milk cows. Nor, she pointed out, did Jessica know how to grind corn by hand, as she herself did at that age. Jessica is helpful and serene, despite these comparisons. Henry and Jessica, they assert, are common names in El Salvador.
Then there was the cheese-making. I won’t bore you with all the details, as I did with the milking. Suffice it to say that I was up to my elbows in cheese, catching fresh cheese out of the air in my mouth, and marveling at Henry’s huge strong homunculus hands connected to his tiny body. Perhaps too much coffee from an early age stunted his growth. If that’s the case, it’s sad that it was instant coffee.
And the swimming holes! Over the dale and through the steep foresty corn fields tumbling down from the sides of the jutting cerros to a small brown river with strangely deep spots. Me and Henry and the calm, mustachioed Nicaraguan machete-ing our way through confusing terrain. Henry can’t swim, but he still jumped with a shout into the deepest spots—12 feet or more!—and thrashed around a bit until I hauled him out so he could do it again. He counseled me that, with the cows, it’s best to show no fear. Apparently this applies to deep water as well.
Sometimes I wish you could Google-Earth me, the frame zooming out out out from West Virginia or Brooklyn or North Carolina or Maryland or wherever you are, panning south south south, zooming back in on a small country with strange topography, green and messy and rudimentary looking from above, closer and closer until you see pale old me, creeping through a creek on a mountain with a small brown kid and a strapping taciturn brown man, grouped around the huge freshwater crab we have just found in the stream, then carrying it up the stream—you lose us in the trees from time to time—and over the dale to the house, where they boil it for the grandmother—you can see in the window by lowering the angle with that nifty Google Earth tool—and the grandmother is grinning because crab is her favorite treat and I am blabbing in Spanish about how much better it tastes that saltwater crab. …Or whatever I’m doing at the moment, you could just zoom in on it. But, often enough you would just find me reading in a hammock, or falling asleep during a training session, or eating in silence across the table from some guy I don’t even know, and it would also be really creepy, so all in all I’m glad you can’t. But take a look at El Salvador on Google Earth sometime, if the resolution is worth a hoot. The topography truly is amazing.
By way of wrapping up the immersion days commentary, I was deeply touched by the warmth, openness, and frank dependable spirit of the family I stayed with, and their resilience in the face of the tragedy that recently befell them. Henry’s steady gaze as he explained his love of working with animals, his philosophy of helping those less fortunate, and his devotion to his father’s principles was the gaze of a man the world is lucky to have living in it. So young, so small, and already solid as a rock. I like to think that wherever you go, there are always jewels like him nearby.